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Old Jun 03, 2020, 02:10 PM
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You're probably right about what you said. She probably doesn't respect me or care about what I have to say. She admitted that she's rude when I told her that she's rude and I don't think she was being sarcastic.

Her and her other friends are all intellectual geeky types. She is proud of being a geek girl, so I'm not putting her down. She is aware of my mental health issues, but I think that she judges me for things and that she doesn't take me seriously because of my issues. She doesn't understand them and she thinks it's easy to be happy and upbeat and I could be that way if I tried to be less "negative" and more confident.

She doesn't get that I can't just act more confident. People with anxiety and social phobia aren't wired that way. I also think that she is selfish and that she needs to be the center of attention too. I think that she can control herself as she stopped talking over me for awhile and she would even say sorry if I'm repeating myself before I even said anything for months.

I'm just going to ignore her from now on. She has the worst phone manners, I'll just five brief responses to texts from now on. Thankfully she rarely brings up anything personal over text as she's paranoid about it being shared with others.

She finally stopped calling me almost everyday! I should've started ignoring her a long time ago as she doesn't want to change and she doesn't care that she's being rude and disrespectful. It's all about her.

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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Sadly I don’t think you can make other people do anything. If she was a kid you can teach her how to behave, but at 43 she is who she is.

You second question is why is she doing it to you only.. Do other people do it to you too or just her? I’d say if she is the only one who interrupts you, then it can’t be because your stories are too long. It’s likely because she doesn’t particularly care about your opinions and doesn’t think highly of you. She likely doesn’t respect you.

Generally speaking I am not sure why you two are friends as you both seem to have a lot of grievances against each other. Just not a good match in addition to her not respecting you. I’d maintain my distance and only interact with her if I must