Hi, what do you mean that she is only doing this to me since I'm probably the only person who calls her out on her rudeness? I probably am the only one of her friends who has the guts to call her out on her bad manners!
She told me that her other friends aren't direct like I am and that I'm 'rude' for being honest. She doesn't think she's being rude by being passive-agressive. i think that maybe they know that she gets offended easily. What kind of person starts crying when you try to set boundaries nicely?
I think that she was trying to manipulate me and make me feel sorry for her when she came up with that OCD/ ADD excuse. She CAN control her behaviour *** she did stop talking over me for awhile and then started to apologize to me whenever she was repeating herself. She was doing it less often too.
I don't know much about ADD or OCD, but it seems like they can't control their behaviour.
Do you think that she was trying to annoy me more for being 'rude' to her? That would not surprise me at all since she is weird and immature at times. And she has told me that she is passive-agressive at times too.
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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
Hi Jesyka,
I think she might be doing this to you only because you are the only one who called her out on her behavior. Probably the best thing to do is to minimize contact with her. If you are in group situations where she is present, it's probably better to just try to avoid her in the group too. I realize what I have offered isn't a really satisfying solution but experience has shown me that for people with really entrenched behaviors (this seems to be the case with this woman--she has been like this for a long time) they are unlikely to change. And the sad reality is that they can also become vindictive if they feel threatened. That seems to be what you are describing.
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