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Old Jun 03, 2020, 04:07 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I wonder what are his explosions about? Is it always about money? Him wanting you to spend on him and you not budging or him taking it without permission and you daring to question it? Those were some examples, all money related.

Or is it sometimes something else? What things are pushing him over the edge?

So I’d say whatever that is needs to be worked on, but now, not when he explodes next time. Maybe instead of addressing his explosions, you need to address what causes those explosions
The last time it happened, was over a HAIRBRUSH and me asking why he was TELLING me he is taking it for the day, rather than ASKING me if he could, since it's MINE.

On our wedding day, it was because I asked him "are you ok?" He blew up because I asked him that. We had been uncertain about things just days before the wedding.

Just before the wedding, it was because he wanted a $300 pair of pants and i asked if I could instead buy him $150 pair of pants, which was going ON MY CREDIT CARD AS A GIFT. He blew up.

It's a seemingly small thing, but it has sometimes to do with me questioning him.
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