Hello guys;
So, it seems overtime my wife used different tactics when we had difficult conversations regarding family or other issues.

And the trend these days is hitting her self to make me stop talking; I am not swearing or doing anything wrong; Yet, she feels that she has to start hitting her self to stop me talking.

This is difficult because now I am having difficulty communicating about smallest thing with her and trying to make her understand why certain things happen.

Is there a technique I can occupy to make her stop being triggered?

How can I make her comfortable getting involved in a dialogue without making her feel threatened? Somehow she feels that I am judging her; and other people only listen to me because I am very good with words.