Do talk to a therapist skilled in dealing with domestic violence/abuse/---
I am old now but as a teen I was stalked by a former bf----I never told anyone, I didn't really understand what was happening but he turned up 20yrs later at my brother's and sent a couple of bizarre letters through my father---it was only then that memories flooded back and I realized how much it had affected me in my relationships without my making the connection-------(I was big on Denial as a coping mechanism)