I sometimes find that people dislike things in others that are actually traits they themselves have . That was certainly the case with the family of origin, all their accusations about me...

I said to one of them “you hurt me”.. admittedly I did not put that in the best way.

The only reply was “ditto”

Naturally no hugs or conversation later on either or any attempt at validation or listening....

I can say I am more evolved at a certain age... in some ways.... than those who hurt me the most were (Irl)

I do not like being an “adult”

Maybe all the crap above is partly why relationships are important to me. I don’t think it’s ok to simply say “we are not a close family” and throw a cub to the winds