Thread: A bit peeved
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Old Apr 20, 2008, 08:50 AM
teejai teejai is offline
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Last week my mother was in her somewhat inebriated 'Grande Dame' mode and told me that that she was going to give the my brother.sister,and i some money to put in our bank accounts.
Personally i have not asked her for anything unlike my sister who has a way of dropping very unsubtle hints especially since my mother is in the process of inheriting her late aunt's money.

What has peeved me is that she is going to give a little extra to my brother because he stays with her in light of the things he does. I know i am probably being childish and silly but when she said this i got quite hurt though i bit my tongue and said nothing.
Given that she was quite well oiled it would have meant more trouble than it was worth if i had.

I guess it hurts and feels like a bit of a slap in the face because although i am not there all the time it feels like all the stuff i do do such as doing her online shopping etc and the stuff i did when my brother wasn't seeing her that much doesn't count for much.
Also it brings home just how much of a 'favourite son' my brother is . Don't get me wrong they argue like anything and have at times a quite intense love/hate relationship going on but there's a closeness there that i don't share with her.

It also hurts(not that i did it for that reason) because while she was ill and in hospital for 6 months i was the one who was traipsing in almost every day to see her and getting things wanted she whilst my brother and especially my sister came in less frequently.

I of course haven't said anything to my brother as it's not his fault she's planning to do this but as said i do feel peeved about it .
I think most of all because it brings home the different degree of feeling she has for the two of us.
I think most parents have a 'favourite' though they usually deny it or try not too much to show it .
It's nothing new to me that my brother is my mother's favourite and my sister my father's but the knowing is one thing the having it spelt out another.