I have this male friend who I hang with. We’re not in a relationship, but we talk daily, I stay over at his house one day on the weekend, we do sleep in the same bed, but don’t have sex. We dated a while back-but very briefly...it was short lived because he wasn’t over his ex. We developed a friendship... I don’t want to ruin our friendship but I can’t help how I feel... there are certain things about his lifestyle I don’t think I could handle. He drinks and smokes too much. However, when I’m with him I forget about all that and my feelings for him come rushing back... I enjoy spending time with him, but I don’t want to make a fool out of myself. He has given me no signal that he wants something more.. is there a way to remain friends and stop having these feelings for someone that you know is not reciprocated? He knows how I feel about him too, but now I need to change things. As far as I’m concerned, if he had feelings for me I would know...he hasn’t shown any indication of any type of romantic feelings toward me. I’m always referred to as his friend....his actions (or lack of) show me that he does not look at me romantically.