I don’t really open up. I make them open up to me first. Most people like to talk about themselves and like to be taken care of, so I focus on listening to their story while giving them some good experiences. “What kind of food do you like? Have you tried this restaurant?”, “How was your day at work? Ah sorry it was stressful, hey let’s go to the Karaoke that’ll probably cheer you up a bit”, “Oh you want to go shopping? Let me help picking up clothes for you”, “You feel overwhelmed? I know this swimming pool that barely has people in it and it has a good view, we can talk there while relaxing at the same time”. I do things like that (won’t do things that I personally don’t like though, so I suggest things that I know I would enjoy as well). Some people say they hate small talks but I think small talks is like a door for the real conversation. We don’t come up to people we just meet and ask them about their childhood traumas or political views for example. It’s just not realistic. Once I become friends with people for a while though, when I open up it’s just natural.