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Originally Posted by divine1966
Honestly some things need to be left unsaid. It’s ok to have general preference. It’s not something one needs to announce especially when it comes to looks. Unless it’s done to deliberately hurt a person it’s possible he is clueless about his words and behaviors. He might lack finesse in behavior and human interactions. He needs some adjustment
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Agreed. But I never said to him, oh yeah, you're great and all, but I prefer something DIFFERENT than what you have to offer!!!!!!
Who the hell says this??
The damage is that every single movie with a dark haired, dark eyed female beauty in it, I avoid when we're together. I think every single time, oh that's what he would prefer!
This has been SO damaging to my self esteem that I want to fight back, get thin and hot again, and have men GAWKING at me again so that HE feels insecure and helpless against it!!!!!!!
One guy over a year ago said to me (while my husband was around), "you're so hot.. can I just touch you?" That's when I WAS hot and not chubby like I am now, not feeling hot or sexy whatsoever. That really bothered my husband, and I want HIM to feel JUST AS INSECURE AS I AM FEELING.
I know this is
not healthy thinking, but it's what I am thinking! I want to get even.