I agree, it was unwise and uncouth for him to say. I have marital issues about other things, but my husband never picked apart or compared my looks. He said he thought I was perfect for him, loves the way I look, and that’s it. He’ll even say I look great when I know I really don’t (and so does he).

You’re going back in your memory now, re-evaluating everything because you’re weighing your options due to the recent issues you are dealing with.

Just do what makes you happy. You really don’t owe anyone anything.

I just had an event from 6 years ago come up and, now that I see it through different eyes, my husband’s behavior in it makes me really mad. So I had it out with him about it yesterday. It really didn’t solve anything. He said “sorry”. What good did my anger and confrontation do me? I guess I’m saying you may as well just save your breath as it’s pointless. And as time goes on and more situations add up, well, I’ve just had to keep on taking it because I chose to stay.