Hi, I'm new to this site. I suffer from social phobia, panic attacks (hardly occurs anymore thankfully, but they can be triggered by certain things), and general anxiety disorder that I'm on meds for. This situation with a friend has made my anxiety worse, especially around her.

Anyways, I have this friend who I mostly hand out with in a group of two other women. If it helps, they're in their 50's and I'm in my 40's. They all work out and none of them are overweight. I am though.

The other two ladies have never made me feel uncomfortable. However, the lady who is a fitness instructor and they thinnest woman in the group makes me feel that she is constantly making me feel as if she's judging me. She is a heath nut and she picks at her food when we go out to eat. She thinks she's 'fat' as her stomach isn't as flat as she'd like it to be. She's tiny as a size XS!

She never treated me like this at first. So I don't get why she'd rudely look at me up and down from head to toe in the group! It's rude! I never once asked her why she did that. I did look at her funny at few times after trying to ignore her at first, but she STILL kept on doing it every single time without fail no matter what I was wearing!

I don't look odd. I dress nice I've been told. The other two women never noticed her doing that they said when I asked them about things. They just told me that maybe she likes what I'm wearing.

If that was the case, why wouldn't she just tell me that instead of making me feel uncomfortable? She doesn't seem to have any mental health issues that'd explain her behaviour a little. She is married and I don't think that she's into women either. Not that I have an issue with that as I'm not homophobic.

What's worse is that they ALL know that I used to be bullimic! So wouldn't she know better at her age to do this to a friend knowing how self conscious I am about my weight? I don't wear revealing clothing and I cover up all the time. too.

She has made things worse by posting a lot of memes about weight gain and fat images in our group texts. I ignored most of them as they're not funny to me. The other two women thought they were funny.

What does it mean when people look you up and down and not say anything or smile when they do that? That's happened to me with a few guys before, but I'm fat and ugly, so they were probably judging me and not checking me out. Especially since they did it with stern serious face.

Should I say anything to her? If so, what? How would you guys handle that if a friend or someone else did that to you?

Why would my friend do this to me? What's ironic is that she used to be as fat as I am after she got pregnant, but she managed to loose the weight She seems a bit judgmental and mean too as she sometimes complains about how fat her husband is and how his belly keeps on getting bigger since he won't stop eating junk food. I'd really appreciate any insight and responses into this.