Honestly the one only way to disconnect is to stop seeing him. Id stop these sleepovers.

Also it’s clear he is not romantically interested. Sleeping in the same bed? And he doesn’t even suggest intimacy? I’ve never met a man who didn’t want sex all the time every time, of course not with every woman, with the one he likes in that way.

So if he was romantically inclined towards you he’d absolutely suggest romance/intimacy during your weekly visits. And he either wouldn’t sleep in the same bed or he’d definitely suggest romance during those activities.

I think to protect yourself from getting your feelings hurt all you can do is to stop seeing him

I may come across as being harsh, but here is what I've gathered up. It will be short and simple. you're friends with a guy that you have a romantic feelings for... he knows it too, but isn't reciprocated.. He continues to allow these sleep over nights in his house where he permits you to sleep in his bed with him... there are no sexual activities going on. I find that very peculiar. What is the reason behind sleeping in the same bed? I think this guy is taking advantage of your emotions to be honest with you. I wouldn't exactly call him a friend when he does stuffs like that. Again... the very concept of these sleepovers, and letting you sleep in his bed with him doesn't bold well for me. I think hes a jerk for not setting up boundaries, and continue to let you suffer with the idea that maybe something can happen. He should've offered to sleep in the living room on the sofa, or something like that.


I do apologize if I sound harsh or cruel.. But I hate it when I see people taking advantage of others peoples emotional feelings. To me that's psychopathic behavior at best. Again that's my perspective on the situation.