I think i've just done it by rule, like its been my general approach to keep quiet for a long time now. I am scared of conflict ,and I don't like to upset other people. but I have learned that you can't make everyone happy and even by being mindful, quiet, and simply speaking when spoken to can rub people up the wrong way. I don't know why that is though? and I think people would disagree with that statement.

one problem I encounter a lot is irritation, small things like misophonia and that sort of response to things in life, I often say nothing about this and try my best to keep it to myself (not entirely sure how good at that I am because it is possibly written all over my body language?). but then when a person gets to know me and they realise I have these issues it almost feels like I have deceived them, it wasn't what they were expecting and its not something they really want to have to deal with. :/