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Originally Posted by Randle McMurphy
I have a lot of paranoid thoughts, a lot of which seem irrational, strange. plus I have opinions that people might not like me expressing, just the sort of thing that people might not want to hear. I tend to hold a lot of it back when in public places, sometimes I express them when in the company with others but that never ends well, usually ends up with them disappearing... and these are situations where I haven't even said anything "bad", just been emotional and said what I was feeling. part of me thinks its dishonest to not ever talk about how you feel or what you think and that in some ways you will just end up setting yourself up for failure.
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Holding back your feelings at work, in public places, etc, is a good survival instinct! On a very few occasions, I have held back and then got too emotional when I expressed myself. It doesn't happen much but I have done it enough times to relate. I remember saying to myself from a very young age "to sleep on it" because, many times when I am feeling disturbed about something, after a good night's sleep--the issue seems much less important in the morning. The 'sleep on it" technique has helped me with other lame brained ideas too!
For me, if I still feel like I need to express the same thing the next day then perhaps I need to address it. It is important to raise important issues to significant others and close family and friends. When we don't, it can make mistrust and paranoia grow. Talking can confirm whether or not your paranoia is valid if you are direct enough and not afraid to ask follow-up questions. If the issue is important, it is important to not hold back.