Hello there Guys;
So, according to her I was not a husband material from get go, we had an arranged marriage; she says I was busy in my own world playing games and browsing computer; She felt lonely and alone for many years.
She says that I never asked what she wanted and always enforced my will on to her. She says that I am controlling and narcissistic person who is very good at manipulating people to get on his side.

Now for the cousin part: That cousin was talking to both of us and I was with them most of the time and I never felt that something else was going on; its just when she started talking late into night and making excuses to call him all the time it became obvious that he took a hold on her completely; Talking to Marriage councilor: it was said that he has narcissistic personality and my wife is under his control; and I can not stop my wife from seeing him.

The biggest thing is that he is my cousin and I never doubted them about anything until I put a VAR (Voice activated recorder) in our car to uncover the secret. At one point she says that she only cares about what he says in this life and another instance she says that she loves him for all the thing that he does for her; This happened after I put a no contact condition for her not to meet him; After that I have made meeting with his wife and mom and told them to keep him away from my family.

I allowed him to walk into my life Trusting him completely; I said Yes to all the activities and accepted his help because I though he is a family friend and has two daughter and a wife; I never though that he would target my wife like that. At one time during our conversation at Restaurant he did mention that in this life his only priority is my wife and that's all he thinks about.

Question I have is this possible? To have wife and children and still pursue another woman at this level?