bpcylist, I don't know how you felt reading the part of fern's post above, but as I was reading it, my eyes started to tear up. Honestly!

You know, if my husband wasn't home for this pandemic, or worse yet, if I was totally alone, I would likely be exactly where you are, or even worse. You are doing your best, under such circumstances. As fern wrote, you are brave, and please don't say you're not!

I clearly understand the reason behind your recent thread wishing for a support house, of sorts. I can say that my father doesn't want to leave his (an assisted living). In a document I created for a neurologist appointment, I mentioned his difficulties with IADLs, and the fears he has expressed. Whether or not they are all psych-related or from other issues, we still don't know. I have trouble with some IADLs, too. Even an ADL, on occasion.

My sister has done some research into hiring professional help to come to my father's home 3 hours per day, if/when he does return home. I think that would be a great solution. I don't know if you would qualify for such help, or could afford it, but as already suggested, it might be a solution.

Have you considered calling NAMI and asking about possible options? I briefly volunteered for their free helpline, and know that my area has some. I would imagine in Portland area, they might, as well. It never hurts to call. Do you live near a NAMI or DBSA meeting location? Have you ever attended a support group at one? Sometimes in-person meetings (which are free) provide more help than just online groups.