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Originally Posted by MsMystery
Hello, BirdDancer, thanks for your reply. I do not value my relationship with my sister. None of your suggestions would work with her, because I have tried them numerous times over YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS with The Argument, the one and only argument she has. Namely, She: "You did XYZ. I know you didn't mean to hurt me, but it made me feel.....3-4 paragraphs of pain." If I say, I'm sorry that what I said/wrote hurt you, and you are right it was never my intention to hurt you. But I am not perfect, so let's just forget about it now. I'm sorry." And see, BirdDancer and all, to let go of it makes her "invisible." I have cut her off, and will not speak to her again. . What I need now from the Forum is to figure out how to get rid of this mood that The Argument caused me to have. I am extremely angry and upset, and I want to let go of the mood but it's eating me alive.
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Since you have made up your mind and feel quite certain about your decision, you need to free yourself from the anger and upset. As horrible as this may sound, maybe do something for yourself to celebrate!
It's possible that there is some grieving process somewhere deep down inside of you. Or if not, maybe you regret not finishing with an [expletive] aimed at her? They can be done (along with coordinating gesticulations) in privacy, in a symbolic way.