I agree they are “insecure” ... who isn’t on some level having experienced trauma. Not everyone who is “insecure” is a “bad person”.. in fact I object more to what IceCreamKid described. People who use others. People who are abusive. People who don’t at least try to “own their stuff”... people like a relative who I will not speak of...

The controlling person I mentioned above did forgive people... I think maybe that is a key difference between ....also that person was able to apologize when she had hurt someone.... some people never do so (those relatives of mine for example.. yes more than one