.... is far too controlling. And, apparently, this is for the sake of the common good. I would like to improve my skills regarding how to engage with this type of individual. or, how to remain under their radar so as not to incur their wrath and..

Projection.

What exactly is Projection?

(not about anyone on pc. I am “unfortunate” in that I seem to attract certain individuals into my life who I would prefer not to. I am sure there are some who would label me with all sorts of things which are not me because of this.[/QUOT

I've known several controlling people. I avoid them now whenever possible.

But more often I've encountered more people who used me -- acted like they were my friend in private and disrespected me behind my back or ignored me in front of other people in order to look cool or with the group of other people. I was good enough for when they wanted something or for when they needed some sort of support--but ignored in the presence of their real friends. That is what I have encountered more often: mealy-mouthed users.