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Originally Posted by never. happy
We would usually chat(and sometimes talk) into the night and stuff like that, and somewhere along the way, I kinda fell for her.
..she used to respond to me like a girlfriend... at least that's how it felt, anyway
And later, she tells me that she has a boyfriend and that it's been going on for four years.
I feel so embarrassed and angry at her or at the fact that she had a boyfriend
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It sounds to me like she's been having an emotional affair with you. Where is this 4-year boyfriend when you're both talking into the night? How old are you both?
I see it as a red flag. Even if she were to leave him for you, chances are she'd be unfaithful to you, too.
How is it that you just learned this after all this time? If she wasn't forthright about it from the beginning, she was purposely hiding it.
All my friends and colleagues (male/female) know I'm in a relationship. It's no secret. She made it one.
I'm sorry you're hurt, embarrassed, and angry. To take good advice would mean to disconnect from her completely. I know it's not what you're wanting but I truly believe it's time to move on.
You sound young. You will meet other women you'll fancy and have strong feelings for. Don't sell yourself short. Don't settle for a girl who gave you unlimited attention. It wasn't for the right reasons.
Sorry. This really sucks!