Thank you for your honesty! While I need validation desperately, I can also take some constructive criticism[emoji4] I have burned her pretty hard before on being left out. That is probably why she nitpicks the issue on the smallest things. I also agree that it is getting harder to remember her on stuff because I'm shutting down emotionally. It's like, the more I close myself off the calmer I feel. But everything in our relationship becomes so mechanical. It sucks when things you used to do spontaneously out of love become something on a list that you do periodically to keep her from harrassing you.