Ms. Lady and FuzzyBear, Thanks to both of you for responding. Ms. Lady, thanks for trying, but I think you are talking semantics. I don't agree that I am simply dismissing my sister's feelings, because this is OLD STUFF that I've heard before. We've had this same argument before, and I was completely familiar with the issue she brought up. She told me what I did, and I admitted it although I was not aware of it at the time. It's old family behavior practiced by my dad against my mother, and the whole family against my sister. I do care that what I wrote bothered my sister, but the extent of her feeling damaged is not just me. She admits that it happens to her with a lot of people. She told me what I did made her feel bad, and I said I understood that, and I was sorry I had slipped up. She wanted a guarantee from me that I would never slip up again, and I said I wasn't perfect. I don't think I did anything in the argument to provoke her to want to dump on my like I was her therapist. I feel like a failure because we can't just be good sisters. I don't agree with her that that's just what happens in families. Not to this severe degree with all families, and I refuse to let her mess with me this way. The reason I feel so bad is because she's my sister and the only person in whole world who can bring out the pain in me that she does.