Hello, Winter4me. You say I'm not willing to listen/communicate. The fact is, this is not about communicating. I'm tried communicating, many many times. Communication implies trying to work something out, but we can't work this out. I admit that I messed up, inadvertently. She says she knows I was not trying to hurt her. End of discussion, as far as I'm concerned. We don't communicate -- she accuses and I listen, or refuse to listen. I know The Argument, because it's been going on our entire lives. It's over. I am trying to drop it. I'm very irritable right now, too, because I just placed an order with Instacart, and they have so many glitches. They used to be very good about getting my groceries, but for the past several months they have been dysfunctional and it really gets me severely irritated. I wrote to my pdoc about both these things and hope she has some medication to keep me from being so irritated.