I'm reading this funny book on divorce that Lemon recommended in another thread and one thing that I was struck by was how little contact the author had with her husband once they were separated. It sounds like they never phoned or emailed or met to discuss finances, the settlement, or anything. She would just receive envelopes of documents from her lawyer every so often and from there, learn how the divorce was proceeding.This is the book: Drunk, Divorced, and Covered in Cat Hair.

Is that how it is for lots of people? Or maybe for people with no kids?

My H and I have two children and have been separated for 6 months now. We have to communicate quite a bit about the kids, coordinating schedules, keeping each other informed about what's happening (homework, kids' medical problems, emotional state of kids--divorce is hard on them!, etc.). We try to meet once a week for a business meeting on the weekend at a coffee house. We discuss the kids and financial issues, exchange documents that need to be signed, pass over photocopied financial records, school report cards, etc. And during the week we may email a couple of times or call, but I try to limit the calls and save stuff up for the face to face meeting. We also sometimes see each other when we "switch" the kids each week and at the kids' sporting events. We also meet at our parenting and financial meetings with the lawyers every month or two as we work on the settlement. We do not receive envelopes of documents from our lawyers in the mail (except for the bills!).

It sounds so different from the author of that book but I guess every divorce is its own beast. How do others do it?(Or how did you do it?)