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Originally Posted by divine1966
The bottom line we can’t change or fix or control other people. We can only control ourselves. You can’t really know why people do what they do. We can’t really get an answer. We aren’t these people. We can’t know what’s in her head or what she feels deep inside or she feels unwanted by her boyfriend or competes with other girls about her looks or if her happy moments are real or fabricated. We simply cannot know what’s in other people’s minds and what’s happening behind closed doors
I’d take a focus of this woman and look into reasons why you are so upset about her and her relationship with her boyfriend. Something must be causing it. Are you seeing a therapist?
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LOL. Just LOL.
If I say "she likes to kill animals, she doesn't have empathy and she cons everyone"? Would you have the same argument that you can't tell what she may have?
I don't understand why people bother to read and answer questions if they don't know the answer and all they want is to judge the poster.
I don't need therapy. I need to understand the LABELS that usually accompany this type of traits. Like "kill, playing god, conning, manipulative and lacking empathy" fits the LABEL: Psychopathy. Or "fear of abandonment, threaten to suicide if someone leaves or is perceived to leave, dramatic view of relatiosnhips" fit the LABEL "borderline". I'm looking for the psychological "labels" that go with this type of TOXIC insecurity where these people need a constant approval from others by using children and spouses as trophies even if they themselves are very nice people. It's a type of insecurity. It's not exclusive of this person, I even said I've seen other people doing similar things. SO I'm pretty sure it's been studied. I'm looking for articles on that.
To me it's important to understand people, not just have faith that they are being normal.
I like to study and understand human behavior. That's my post. If you don't know the answer because you're not qualified to do it, then there are thousands of other posts there for you to judge and comment.