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Originally Posted by walkingby
LOL. Just LOL.
If I say "she likes to kill animals, she doesn't have empathy and she cons everyone"? Would you have the same argument that you can't tell what she may have?
I don't understand why people bother to read and answer questions if they don't know the answer and all they want is to judge the poster.
I don't need therapy. I need to understand the LABELS that usually accompany this type of traits. Like "kill, playing god, conning, manipulative and lacking empathy" fits the LABEL: Psychopathy. Or "fear of abandonment, threaten to suicide if someone leaves or is perceived to leave, dramatic view of relatiosnhips" fit the LABEL "borderline". I'm looking for the psychological "labels" that go with this type of TOXIC insecurity where these people need a constant approval from others by using children and spouses as trophies even if they themselves are very nice people. It's a type of insecurity. It's not exclusive of this person, I even said I've seen other people doing similar things. SO I'm pretty sure it's been studied. I'm looking for articles on that.
To me it's important to understand people, not just have faith that they are being normal.
I like to study and understand human behavior. That's my post. If you don't know the answer because you're not qualified to do it, then there are thousands of other posts there for you to judge and comment.
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I actually am qualified re dealing with diagnoses, but we aren’t acting here in a professional capacity. It’s not allowed. Plus even if we were allowed to act in our professional capacity here, it wouldn’t be possible without meeting her in person, observing, evaluating etc etc
How do you know though if she is using her husband as a trophy or they just have a happy life together?
That’s why I said it might be worth exploring why her relationship with her boyfriend or spouse concerns you so much. Do you know him well? Are you related to him? Did he share with you that relationship isn’t really loving and is fake and you are now concerned for her? Or is there something else that makes you focusing on their relationship? Do you all live together?
You said you need help coping with this. If you need coping, it means it’s more than just doing research. You are having hard time with it. We can maybe help you cope if we know why you are upset about their relationship. That’s why I thought therapy could help to get to the bottom of it