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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Is your concern for the child? Do they go to school? Do they have friends? What do you think is the reason she won’t let them play with the cousins at a family gathering? Are you a relative?
There’s nothing you describe that sounds really abnormal without knowing the whole situation.
I can’t think of any words to say she is. An over protective mother? A clingy, needy mother? A dedicated mother? I don’t know the whole story. The child could have special needs, or she could be overly obsessed with her ‘miracle baby’.
Are you trying to help someone in this? What is your role?
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No, it's not normal. Over protectiveness is never very normal, this is not even protection: it's demonstration. And using a child to not be alone.
I honestly can't understand how people don't see how unhealthy this is.
It's not healthy to spend 11 years focused almost solely on displaying your "bond" with your kid (sometimes there isn't even anything, he's just living his life and there she goes: a picture, a public picture with a sentence that forces a connection).
It's not healthy for the child, for the relationships she builds and for herself to be this clingy, moreover with a child that should not be used for the adult's personal gratification.
Combining both: 11 years (a decade) focused on displaying the "bond" and clinging on a child and a partner as a form os validation seeking...it says there's something unbalanced with this person.