Thank you.

Yes, this makes sense too. It focus a bit more on the consequences for the child, which I already have read about, but it helps to understand the mindset of the mother and also points to the dysfunctional parents she has. Her mother looks like the opposite of her. Narcissist. I think she crosses the line with her daughter's boyfriend. Way too much compliments on his looks, which sounds inappropriate. I think they see him as a "catch". Someone they (mother, yes, and daughter) never thought they could have. So, while the daughter seems super insecure and clings on to him and makes her relationship the biggest achievement of her life, her mother seems to think he's also her imagined boyfriend. So clearly this is a nest of dysfunctions.

Though I think the anxious attachment explains better her mindset. A narcissist mother who didn't give her the attention she needed as a child and now she became extremely needy. Also not being pretty (I know shocking) and not looking better when her boyfriend is easy going and has lots of pretty friends make her more desperate.

She does seem extremely insecure.