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Originally Posted by divine1966
If your concern is about safety of a child then maybe you can bring it up with her. Typically people make their social media and pictures accessible only to their friends/family/followers. Not for 500 total strangers .
Some people don’t realize though that their accounts are accessible by strangers and some do have too many so called Facebook friends, who really are strangers. If she is a family member and you two are close enough for you to be concerned about her family life, it would be ok for you to bring it up that strangers could see her kids pictures
As about her boyfriend, he is an adult. His safety isn’t in jeopardy and he could let her know he doesn’t want his pictures on social media. If he isn’t addressing it, then it means he is ok with it. I’d not worry about their relationship. They are adults.
If her social media annoys you (and I totally get it, some people post such nonsense or get into drama on social media and it’s annoying), it might be a good idea not to look on her social media. That’s what I do. I don’t look if posts are pointless or aggravating (political messages etc)
I also think that since this couple is in their 50s (if she had a kid in her 40s) it’s very unlikely that they worry about things like him being cool and popular and getting cute girls or her not being as pretty as other girls. They aren’t in high school and likely aren’t concerned with stuff. They are middle aged and way past the superficial teenage stuff. I am 54 and I don’t care who is cool or popular. I care about my looks but in regards to looking decent and presenting myself nice, not to the point of comparing myself with others.
Every couple conducts their relationship differently. Maybe you don’t post as much about your partner or your kids but this woman does. That’s how their family runs.
If you are concerned for a well being of a child and you are close family, ask to hang out or visit their house and hang out with their child. It could be good for the child and it might be good for you to see what’s what. Maybe things aren’t bad or abnormal in their family if you see them more in their own habitat. Or maybe they are total loons, but you can’t do much about it
Good luck with this
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Her account is public. She has almost 500 followers + any stranger can see it.
No, I'm not concerned about her. She's an adult. I'm trying to understand what kind of person she is and what kind of toxicity this type of people can bring to others who relate to her.
It IS NOT a diagnose. "Diagnose" is done to a particular person and complete context. These are patterns of behavior that can be consistent with certain already studied issues. As is.
The kid is not in an unsafe environment. It's just not going to grow up a balanced child. Right now he's a spoiled brat. As you can imagine what will happen to a man who lived all his childhood pleasing his mother's insecurities. Mommy wants to match costumes. Let's go. Forget about matching outfits with is own partner or have ideas for costumes of his own. No, no, no. Mommy had this idea that's going to look so cool on insta.
Thank you. I have my answers now. Anxious attachment, enmeshment and insecurity. I'll research on my own now.