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Originally Posted by MsLady
Oh, yikes. Highly speculative and anxiety provoking!
The neighbours below are "shy". This could mean they're non-confrontational, or anxious people, or scared to approach a stranger. Maybe they've had negative experiences in their past that they've now opted to speak directly to the manager. There's nothing "fishy" IMO.
I'd respect the boundary and be more mindful. Having said that, sometimes it's just a structural issue one is unable to avoid. So don't walk on tippy-toes. Don't second guess yourself. If you drop something, big deal. If it happens a lot, talk with your doctor.. or slow down a bit.
If the manager speaks with you again, let him know the changes you have made. If the neighbours are that unhappy, they can choose to live elsewhere.
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First of all, I want to say thanks to you MS Lady & 88Butterfly88 for replying.
I just want to give a little background about me and my place. A year ago, before I moved in, I asked my manager if I could work out with weights in my unit. She said I could. I did what I could do to try to make it less noisy. It went well for a while and then the downstairs neighbors (mother & daughter) complained about two months later. So I had to give up the weights. And now, just yesterday, they complained again; and it's been at least nine months I would say. Why did they wait so long?
I agree that they may have fears of confronting a neighbor making noise. I'm very much the same way. At another place I lived at, I reported people for making too much noise instead of confronting them. I don't feel comfortable confronting people; plus I didn't want to speak to them because I was alone and the neighbors were in a clan or gang. So I'd be outnumbered. And about a couple of years ago when I lived in a condo, I asked my downstairs neighbors to "tone it down". They practically threatened to kill me. There were no managers at that place to intervene if there was a problem.
OK, now back to this issue. I think I know what the problem is about dropping things and I have changed my ways about it. That's easy. But the walking around - I have been walking the way I do for over 60 years! So that's going to be hard to just change that. My friend told me he notices that I could be making a lot of noise when I walk. Because I walk on my heals. Instead I should walk on the balls of my feet.
I have always wanted to live on the top floor of places because I feel like the top floor has the control. I have lived below others before, and even the most quiet people can make a racket. They can't help it. Plus, I agree about the structure thing.
Stuff like this makes me want to live out in the sticks somewhere. I'm just so sick of living in apartments with other people. I've done it for over 30 years. I am planning on that someday, but I'm scared about it. Plus, I feel like I'm running scared of where I am now. I live in a nice place, but now I feel like it's been ruined.