I married my second husband at 50. The thing is we make same amount of money in similar career fields so we pay for everything equally. It actually doesn’t matter if our accounts separate or combined, we have 50/50 contribution to everything. (We do have separate bank accounts but we make same money so it makes no difference)

Not to sound materialistic but I’d not marry someone who makes less than me at this point in my life or someone with no savings and no retirement funds or no credit. No. Simply because I’d either have to support him for years to come or would have to assume a different life style which I am not interested in doing.

I always thought if I had extra money and wanted to spend on someone, it would be someone I already know! Like my kid. If I had no kids, it would be my nephews or my niece, my brother etc Not a stranger! I worked two hard for that.

When I married my first husband we were both very young and in college and we obviously both had nothing and had to built from nothing. But I’ve met my second husband at 49, I have my education and my career and retirement savings and my pension coming up, I’d not take someone on who had much less than what I have. No way. It might make me sound selfish but it’s a reality. Most people who marry later in life have the same take on it. Men and women.

Not saying you got to divorce him but if he is in different place in life with no savings and no old age plans and no credit, then he needs to get himself into a better shape instead of expecting things from you. It’s not right. Unless it was discussed when you were dating and you agreed to this arrangement, he needs to take more responsibility