I can't tell if my parents are being purposeful in trying to normalize their abuse, or if they were literally so absentminded about everything they did that they don't remember. But they always speak publicly (restaurants or family gatherings) about the times I remember them being abusive, but their take is practically like revisionist history. An example: If I stayed after school until I was left waiting until after dark, six or more hours. Not allowed to call anyone else and embarrass my parents. They say, "Oh, you know, we were just so busy with work that we couldn't be as close to the kids as we wanted." Or my making myself nearly every meal, otherwise I wouldn't eat, my mom remembers it as, "I hated cooking and waking up early to make your lunches, but I did it just for you." But I can deeply relate to being seen as the trouble-maker. I'm bored or mean so I over-analyze, I simply can't help it, or it's "part of my creative nature".