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Originally Posted by walkingby
Yes, she also uses her relationship with him to validate herself. But the kid is the main tool to validate her self worth that she clearly doesn't see she can have independently of others.
The fact that her face and body do not correspond to the features people perceive has more beauty while her boyfriend is surrounded by women who do display them may contribute to the insecurity.
I thought people on this forum could use that to understand the personality but no, you all just feel shocked that some people can call someone not pretty.
And divine...you read the title of this post "people who cling to their child and their relationships" and your comments are you defending that people who do that are normal. They're not.
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Sure some people are not good looking. But I just don’t see an importance of it. Clearly she looks good enough to him to stay together for years and raise a child. Unless she told you she is insecure about her looks you can’t just assume she is. Not everyone is insecure that their partners look better. It’s not important for many people especially not after years together. As about her clinging on to their relationship I don’t see it as a problem for other people. It’s between them two. If it’s a problem for her boyfriend he’ll address it, other people shouldn’t really care. Everybody’s relationship is different
It’s hard to tell about this child and moms attachment without knowing more. She might be overprotective parent. I suggested to spend more time whth her and her child to get to know them better and maybe getting better understanding of what’s going on. Just seeing what she posts on social media and observing her and the kid at the parties might not be enough to say if it’s normal or not. How well do you know them?
Get to know her and her family better if it’s concerning to you.