Usually my T is pretty darn awesome. All of this is SO out of character for him. He was also dressed “funny” and I didn’t get a mulch update so I hope he has a really good d* reason. We have had “ruptures” twice before but I could tell I was over emotional for what had happened those times and he handled both well... but both could reasonably be written off as simple misunderstandings. These aren’t so easy to write off and I am upset but not triggered like I was for the two “ruptures”. He handles getting yelled at really well but the tone in the email was more of a calm angry... this email also implied the unprofessionalism of the interaction which is a line I have never crossed.
For those that have been following my adventures with T... I have mentioned before my struggles with the affirmations he has asked me to do. He pretty much got told to shove them where the sun doesn’t shine at this point. I tried them trusting him and trusting his honesty and he blew that one all to hell.
I called him out on a lot of his stuff and a lot of things he doesn’t get or hasn’t gotten. I suspect he will be thankful that this is an email and not in person so he has a chance to react to it before returning to a professional space and responding.
And yes, I challenged the authenticity of his relational approach AND how much he perceives that, perhaps quite inaccurately, as a personality trait outside the office as well.
He also got quoted against himself.