So i was roughly 40 when I started dating....was too messed up before that, it took a bit a therapy. I don’t freak people out with diagnosis and the scary parts of the illness but because I take a medication at roughly 9 at night and I have an alarm set for this, I find I need to explain pretty early on. Anyway I didn’t even know my dx when I started dating my current four years ago. I just mentioned that sometimes I heard voices but that I took a med for that to prevent it. People had no problem with this at all. I must have been on twenty dates before meeting him and while there were various reasons for not clicking my psychosis was not one of them.

I do however keep my medical needs separate from my relationship. I don’t expect him to understand me like a therapist or pdoc would just like I don’t take care of his asthma. He knows about it just in case I deteriorate and he has to get me help and because of the intimacy of being honest. To be fair I’m pretty asymptomatic but present mostly with anxiety....especially when it comes to driving etc.

I will say if I had hope of keeping someone I told them around date 3....some sooner....if you’re up front about it it’s much easier and you can ditch any losers who respond negatively to it.