i don't *like* knowing he's frustrated, but i actually asked him to say so.. i want him to be real with me. One thing i am trying to work on is interaction and if i am not getting real reactions, then how will i ever know when im doing something which precipitates the issues im working on? If i frustrate him, i am likely frustrating others the same way, i want to know that.

does he flip out or raise his voice? nope.. not one iota. He knows i am afraid of anger. i would never be able to put serious trust into someone who hid all of their negative feelings.. it would be fake to me. It has been over a year with him and he has voiced frustration on three occasions.

but anger is not really appropriate.. unless you're violent or abusive or something. What could a client be doing that would ellicit anger anyway? Even an angry client is a given some of the time, comes with the job. i could not keep seeing a therapist like that.