Hi tuitifruti welcome to psych central. Wow I am so sorry you are dealing with this challenge after being with someone for so many years. I wonder if we ever really know some one. Well there is nothing you can do about him suddenly having these extra needs. Sigh...I don’t know why someone doesn’t disclose this before they bring a child into the picture. You are going need time to adjust and accept this change of direction in your life. No one JUST does this quickly.

He does have a financial responsibility to his child. Please know you are still young and CAN rebuild your life brick by brick and with patience.