I also agree that a phone call would be a good idea. A couple of my ruptures with Dr. T either happened or were made worse over email (misreading each others' tone, stuff like that), and I learned that if I had a conflict with him, it was better to talk it over in person (he doesn't really do phone calls that aren't scheduled). With ex-MC, phone calls helped. If he's unwilling to do a phone call, I know you aren't supposed to have session on your regular day next week because of your anniversary, but could he maybe schedule something on a different day?


As for what's needed, I think a true apology (not "sorry if you were bothered" or "sorry you felt that way"), taking responsibility, making it clear he understands what you're saying (like not wanting the positive stuff), etc.