Dear Francais,

Welcome to the Forums. It is very nice to meet you.

I wish I had something helpful to offer, but sadly I don't. Hopefully others here with more experience, insight and wisdom will see your post and respond to it with really helpful and practical ideas.

In my life I have seen all kinds of relationships work or not work and have never been able to figure out the reasons why. It all seems very mysterious to me. Although I have always sought enduring relationships, I have never regretted any relationship I was in, no matter how short lived. But I think that is an idiosyncrasy of mine and probably is not anything that could be generalized or helpful to you or others.

I do hope you find helpful words here on these Forums. I fear my words are useless to you or worse than useless. So sorry. I do want to wish you the very best in your relationship and in your entire life journey.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen