We also discussed my husband's attitude towards finances and me and finances. And I don't think it's a matter of my husband taking advantage of me financially, though on the surface it can seem that way. I think it's a matter of him wanting to still be taken care of (because he always has been) and not wanting to take any responsibility for his own life and financial stability. I see that he resents the loss of his parents' enormous wealth immensely, and I think he is resistant to having to actually work hard and actually save money in order to buy the things he wants. He is used to being handed EVERYTHING, even in adulthood. And his ex wife allowed this throughout their marriage. So I think it's more his immaturity and his inability to just freaking grow up, accept the loss of his family's wealth (finally), become a REAL man, EARN and SAVE money like the rest of us do. He still wants to live his life as though he is wealthy. He is living in a dream world and needs to grow the F up.

The only way for me to hammer in that message to him I feel is through couples counseling. Otherwise, he won't hear it or take it well.