Did therapist have suggestions on how to approach financial situation? It really sounds like your husband needs like a life coach if not a therapist.

Even if it’s frustrating that his parents lost their wealth, it wasn’t HIS wealth. He was enjoying other people’s wealth.

Maybe his ex wife was so well off that it didn’t bother her to support him. Or maybe she grew resentful over time and that’s why they had bad fights. Or maybe she had to give in and buy stuff for him to avoid nasty fights. The thing is unless he seeks help he won’t change. People rarely change. But you can control yourself and your actions. He lives like this because he can, he always finds someone to do it for him.

But it could stop with you. Don’t do it. Don’t give in. The only way he can learn is if people stop doing it for him. You don’t even need to hammer that message. Just say no