At our first Christmas together, my mother went out of her way to buy nice gifts for my husband. He did not know my family very well yet and had only been with them a few times before we spent Christmas morning with them. Nonetheless, he did not thank my parents when he opened their nice gifts for him. I had to poke him to tell him to thank them for their presents. I was APPALLED and totally embarrassed in front of my parents. And what's strange is that he prides himself for having so-called "good manners". But the way I saw it, he wasn't pleased with the gifts he received and therefore, was acting like a spoiled brat and not thanking them for the gifts because he did not like them. He did not even appreciate the gesture.

Same thing goes with the nice couch my sister donated to us. He is most ungrateful about it, complains about it ALL THE TIME, saying how much is SUCKS, and all I can say and think is "be grateful we even have a couch and that my sister was kind enough to give it to us!!!!" (when each of us had very little furniture that we actually owned ourselves).

To top it all off, he makes racist remarks on top of sexist remarks. He calls the more impoverished Spanish neighbors across the street "mud people". WHAT???????????? COME ON!!!!!!!! REALLY???????

I don't even know if I like my husband as a person or even as a human being.

I verbalized all of this to my closest girlfriend today and she said "I would not tolerate that". Neither do I. I married a monster... someone I would not want lifelong.

It's decided. I want a divorce, and I want out of this relationship. Now I just need to figure out HOW and WHEN.