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Old Jun 11, 2020, 04:37 AM
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Originally Posted by Omers View Post
Well, I let T know where I was at. I don’t know if he read the other messages or not but this was his reply...

I am concerned about you. Without a phone you are cut off from any quick resources. It does not sound that you are not in immediate danger, but your lack of self-care is a concern. This is a time of determination to change your circumstances soon. You are smart and can figure out resources without sacrificing your soul.

Please call when you have a phone.

*sigh*
Am I wrong to not feel helped by this?
Is that the only response he has sent you? There is no mention of him falling asleep or any address of his other marginalising behaviours. I would be very angry. I think this is more than unhelpful - it compounds your experience of not being seen.

"I am concerned about you" would fall very flat with me in the context of his other behaviours and comments. Ordinarily, I am enthralled when my therapist says similar things to me. I romance our relationship and I get giddy with the magic of her. Saying this on the back of falling asleep in session would ring very hollow and I would be questioning her authenticity. "I am concerned about you but not enough to stay awake" is what I would hear. But then I am a petulant child in many ways, hopefully you are more emotionally mature!

I feel sad when I read how you are trying to maximise your chances of maintaining contact with him and continuing your work with him. I have commented in one of your threads before on the issue of money and therapy so I won't labour my point, but he appears mercenary. How is he meeting you? All I hear is how you are trying to accommodate his boundaries. As someone else said, he has a duty of care towards you.
Thanks for this!
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