By uprooting, I mean moving out.. moving is a HUGE pain in the butt. I don't want to move!!!! I love our apartment and moving is a HUGE expense for me, which I've explained. That's financial upheaval. So is splitting up belongings that we share or own together. And by uprooting, I also mean our shared social life will be completely shaken up. We go out to all the same places and hang out with all the same people. I have a handful of separate friendships that I had before him of course, and some amount of separation, but its; going to be a huge upheaval for me. And the social scene will be totally awkward. People may take sides, I don't know how this will turn out and I AM SCARED and very NERVOUS. I don't want to lose friends and I don't want to lose my fun social scene. And I don't want to end things on a really bad note so that he goes on some sort of reputation smear campaign with all our shared friends.

That's what I meant. I don't see what the big difference is between 1 year and 25 years. It's not to be downplayed just because I've only been married 1 year. We've lived together for 2 years. When I say it's an upheaval and a big deal for me, people shouldn't downplay or belittle what that means for me.

And I think I DO need to sit on this. I am not ready for this. Not one bit!