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Old Jun 11, 2020, 08:11 AM
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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo View Post
Is that the only response he has sent you? There is no mention of him falling asleep or any address of his other marginalising behaviours. I would be very angry. I think this is more than unhelpful - it compounds your experience of not being seen.

"I am concerned about you" would fall very flat with me in the context of his other behaviours and comments. Ordinarily, I am enthralled when my therapist says similar things to me. I romance our relationship and I get giddy with the magic of her. Saying this on the back of falling asleep in session would ring very hollow and I would be questioning her authenticity. "I am concerned about you but not enough to stay awake" is what I would hear. But then I am a petulant child in many ways, hopefully you are more emotionally mature!

I feel sad when I read how you are trying to maximise your chances of maintaining contact with him and continuing your work with him. I have commented in one of your threads before on the issue of money and therapy so I won't labour my point, but he appears mercenary. How is he meeting you? All I hear is how you are trying to accommodate his boundaries. As someone else said, he has a duty of care towards you.
Sadly this is where my eternal optimism shows. I am hopeful that he wants to talk over the phone to repair things. I am doubtful he has any openings to meet at his office before our next session (the 22nd). He is not comfortable on email and I can’t blame him for that. So... again, I am hoping he wishes to address the other concerns in a more personal manner. Should I be wrong all h* may break loose.
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