I really need some comments and support here.

I've been abused as a child as a wife and now as a mother.

My son is 17 due to be 18 on the 27th. He is a drug addict. I have been in recovery for 2 years. To make the story short he brings drugs in my house and manipulates me to no end. He is in and out of school and steals from me and sells stuff out of my house. He has anger issues and does serious damage to my house. He has never touched me. He throws stuff and punches the wall that scares me. I'm told that is so he can get what he wants. I've had him in treatment, counseling, had him arrested and nothing helped. Last week he faked a robbery at my house. He broke into a fire proof safe I have because of him and stole a silver dollar collection and cash. He damaged a outside door and bedroom door and a wall. The police and detectives know it was him because the outside door was pried from the inside. They can't convict him because there is not enough evidence. He has broken in the house before when he wasn't supposed to be here, but you can't break into your own home. You also cannot be charged with vandalism of your own home. So I've been screwed all around. Since I've been abused all my life, I didn't realize this was considered abuse.

He has agreed to move out on Sunday. He has no job, but he said he has a friend he can live with.

Here's my situtation. My T wants me to get a protection order. That would mean I could have no contact with him what so ever. If he contacts me at all I can have him arrested immediately. I am afraid he will try to break in. He knows my schedule. My T thinks with the drugs the next step could be to try to hurt me for money.

I've been crying all day. It's been me and him since he was 10 years old. We did everything together. I don't want to go without seeing him. My T wants me to take care of myself. He knows I don't do that. My son has manipulated me from jail before with his letters. I have a hard time turning him down, if he says he needs money for food. I don't want to ruin our relationship, but T says he already has. I love my son and want the best for him.

What do you all think?