For what it's worth, my therapist never pressured me to leave my relationship. He didn't use the word 'abuse' until I did. (I think I know why. He told me about a mistake he made with a previous client by using the word abuse.) I asked him once if he was frustrated because I hadn't left yet and he said no but if it was two years later and I was still in, he might find that frustrating. He has said that the situation made him anxious especially as things were escalating and he still didn't try to set a goal for me to leave. These really are things you have to be able to decide for yourself. If you want to discuss reasons you haven't left and want to make a goal to address those things, that's one thing, but him deciding that you need to leave, that's just not a good way to approach it therapeutically, in my opinion. He did, however, strongly encourage me to go to a DV agency and get a safety plan in place once things started turning overtly physical. He also encouraged me to go to a DV support group. Those suggestions felt supportive and didn't feel out of place at all.