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Originally Posted by divine1966
Yeah but that’s your life and not theirs. I really don’t understand the concept of what’s better or worse. Plus some marriages are just no good and no abuse is present at all (not saying yours is). They possibly have much worse situations than yours and they know it themselves but they find if difficult to leave yet they still want to help others to leave theirs.
If you are happy and satisfied in your marriage then who cares what other people think. And if you are unhappy and dissatisfied then who cares that other people got it even worse? Just do what’s right for you
Talking about chairs we have the most comfortable recliners from Art Van and now sadly Art Van is going out of business 
Ps Didn’t you say you’ll trust yourself and your guts more?  Don’t give strangers and how they live their lives more power than needed |
True. BUT, I am still looking for support around my marital difficulties from various sources, and it's not helpful to me when all women tell me to do is to leave the situation. Every situation differs, and you're right... it comes down to whether I am happy and content or not... not what these women say about it. All I was saying is that my situation isn't half as bad as others I read about and the women who tell me to leave are the ones who experienced very severe abuse. That's all I was saying.
And there's still a chance that couples therapy MAY help in my situation. Maybe.
It's very lonely dealing with this, especially when I cannot confide in my parents. Normally, I would be talking to my parents all the time about this. I did live with them for four years not too long ago, and they were intimately involved in my life then. They were intimately involved in most of my life, up until now. But I am not confiding in them about this whatsoever and for very good reasons. They can be controlling and will want to tell me what to do and will overly involve themselves to the point where it will confuse me and make things worse. So I feel very alone with my struggles on a day-to-day basis, so I reach out on these other forums for support. But it's not the support I need.
I am trying to think for myself, and yes, follow what my own gut says about all this, yet I need
support too.
My best girlfriend, another girlfriend, my sister, and my therapist are the best support I have right now IRL -- I don't want to wear anyone out though, so I try not to call them too much about it. I talk the most about it to my closest girlfriend, maybe once per week. And online, the best support I have is here, on PC.