@guy1111, you know, I was thinking a bit more on the communication blocks you have come across with your wife. It seems she approaches things from a position of immaturity. It seems she lacks the communication skills and tools that are necessary in order to discuss and work through any issues with you, which ultimately, will make a marriage fall apart in the end. I think that couples therapy could give your wife the tools she needs in order to be able to communicate more effectively and productively with you. And I'm afraid that without the assistance of a couples therapist, that you are going to continue to experience the same exact scenarios and will continue banging your head against the wall. This will only lead to further emotional distancing and shutting down on your end.... the marriage will suffer even worse if this keeps up. She really needs help in learning how to communicate. And I could say the same exact things about my own husband, who also has a lot of trouble with communication.